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Written by Ayesha Izhar. (My friend from Pakistan)

They have names for us.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


They have names for women who sell their bodies for sex.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


But there are no names for the men who have sex with them. Theyโ€™re respectable men who go on with life without facing a dilemma.


They have names for women who get pregnant by having sex without being married and give birth to the child.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


They even have names for the child she bears.


๐ต๐‘Ž๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘‘. ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘—๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘ง, ๐บโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘’๐‘’๐‘ง. ๐ต๐‘’๐‘ฆ๐‘›๐‘Ž๐‘Ž๐‘š.


But there are no names for the man that gets her pregnant and leaves her to deal with the society on her own.


They have names for you when you refuse to accept their advances. And they have acid to throw on your face when you refuse to marry them.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


They have names when you step out to support your family and names when you work your way up the ladder.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


Names for the women that are sex workers.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


But there are no names for the men who are their customers. Moulvi, Government employee, random respectable man who thinks itโ€™s his right to get satisfaction in any way he wants.


It is haram to pray a ๐‘‡๐‘Ž๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘“โ€™๐‘  janazah.


Because she is a ๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


But the janazah of the men who pay them visits are grand ones, prayed by the best of moulvis who shower them with duas.


When weโ€™re harassed and assaulted on the streets they say it was our fault for existing, and the clothes that we wear to entice men.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


But no names for the men who canโ€™t keep their hands to themselves.


They rape little girls, force their families to abandon them, force the society to hate them, encourage men to never marry them then wonder why prostitution is the only livelihood they find.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


Itโ€™s like backing an animal in a cage with a gun and then telling everyone the hunted loves being in the shackles.


They have names for you when you speak too loud and speak your mind.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


Names when you refuse to be under their control.


๐‘…๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–. ๐บ๐‘Ž๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘ก๐‘–. ๐‘ƒ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘ก๐‘’. ๐‘†๐‘™๐‘ข๐‘ก.


But no names for their filthy hands with which they harass, assault, and choke you to silence for their two seconds of pleasure.


They have disgusting constructs of your virginity being sacred, of you carrying the honour of the entire family so that they can control you, but nothing that controls them or their unbound powers.


โ€˜๐ˆ๐Ÿ ๐š ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐จ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก ๐ก๐ž๐ซ, ๐ฆ๐š๐ฒ๐›๐ž ๐ข๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ก๐š๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐๐ข๐ซ๐ญ๐ฒโ€™